complaining

Addicted to writing…. Ehmm perhaps since last months, almost everyday I have to switch on to my PC. I do not know that this habit is growing fast in me. My son was mumbling at me one night. oopss I realize that with this new job I most probably neglecting them. Sorry son!!!... one day my elder son inarticulate something that I was unsure what was it. Actually, we went to my mom house. I need to rush and left my kids there for one occasion. Suddenly my son said ‘Mama, staying here is so boring. I wish I stayed somewhere else. Grand ma house is awfully small”. My son started to complain. Ehmmm sebesar- besar rumah mak tok ni… dia kata kecik!! I said to him…’sekejap ja mama gi kerja, nanti mama balik kita gi playground. Ok tak?” He was still in a bad mood. Recently, I think my sons already smart enough to complain me on something that did not suit them. Any crop up things, they will come out with the question or disagreement. Can I say that complaining is often a learned behavior. Many children learn to complain by watching their parents complain. If you are committed to keeping your child’s complaints to a minimum, then it is important that you minimize the amount you complain. It is always far more productive and satisfying to determine that “your glass is half full instead of half empty.” I would say that we should teach our kids when it is appropriate to complain and when it is not. Negative comments seldom make things better. Indeed, they usually make things worse. We should encourage our children to be positive as much as possible and to utilize negative response only when necessary.

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Still think about complaining. Why are we complaining? We are complaining when we are not pleased with something and say so. Complaining is (I think) saying that something is wrong. It is finding fault with something. When you are with someone who keeps complaining: How do you feel? What do you think?... and what do you do? When we are with someone with this character, I suppose that you might feel unhappy and disappointed. I might say that it is not fun to spend time with the person or perhaps, you might decide you do not want to be around them. For me it is important to treats others the way you want to be treated. If you do not want the people you are with to complain, you must not complain. Too much complaining can make you feel bad. It can cause you to think about the bad things around you instead of the good things. Thinking about the bad things around you can put you in a bad mood. When you are in a bad mood, you will probably have a bad day. You might say or do things that hurt you or the people and things around you. Complaining can be very harmful, sometimes. This does not mean we should keep quiet when something is wrong. On occasion, you might need to complain. Think before you complain. Complain if only it will help change something that needs to be changed. Accept things, as they are if they cannot be changed. Do not continue to complain!!!. Do it nicely when you complain. Try not to shout!. Try to suggest ways to solve the problem. Once you sure your complaint is understood, stop complaining. Listen what others have to say. If they suggest a good solution to the problem, follow it. Remember to think about the good stuff around you. Talk about them. Do not complain unless you need to.